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A love-struck couple from arch-rivals India and Pakistan, who met in a gaming chat room before sneaking across borders to be together, say their passion trumped national rivalries or fear of religious backlash.

Sachin Meena, 22, an unmarried Indian shopkeeping assistant and a Hindu, connected with 27-year-old Seema Haider, a married Pakistani mother of four and a Muslim, playing the online shooting game PUBG during the coronavirus pandemic in 2020.

“We became friends and our friendship turned to love and our chats became longer—every morning and night—before we finally decided to meet,” said Seema, speaking to AFP from the cramped courtyard of Sachin’s two-room family home, where she now lives.

Seema, who left Pakistan and her husband with her four children by smuggling herself into India via Nepal in May—for which the couple were arrested then bailed out last week—said she has since married Sachin and taken his name.

“I converted to Hinduism,” she said, sitting next to Sachin in the village of Rabupura, about 55 kilometers from New Delhi. “I’d rather die than return or leave Sachin”. While the lovers have found each other, the history of their respective nations is bitter.

India and Pakistan, both nuclear-armed nations, have fought three wars since being carved out of the subcontinent in 1947. Each expelled the other’s high commissioner in 2019, and bilateral diplomatic, cultural, business and sporting links are very limited.

Indian police insist that Seema’s long-term stay will be impossible.

“I request the Indian government to grant me citizenship,” Seema pleaded, a red headscarf covering her hair and her four young children playing nearby.

‘Destined’

Apostasy is considered punishable by death in some interpretations of Islam. Seema said she had already received online threats and insisted the couple would “live and die together”.

Seema’s proclamation of “undying love” for Sachin and a promise to only return to Pakistan “as a dead woman” when they featured on a raucous Indian TV debate this week drew cheers from the crowds sitting around them.

Seema said she had been first attracted by Sachin’s gaming skills.

Three years later, the couple met in person in March in Nepal.

She became sure about leaving her “abusive” Pakistani husband—charges he denies—after the first meeting.

The couple said it took months of meticulous planning with help from YouTube videos on how to enter India via Nepal. In May, she succeeded.

“It was very difficult to travel from Pakistan to India,” she said. “I believe that with God’s love, we were destined to meet.”

Sachin’s family only learned of her existence when he rented a nearby apartment with her.

“There was some resistance, but my father and everyone accepted us. They are happy for us,” said Sachin. “I will do everything for them.”

Indian police found out after they tried to get married at a local court.

‘Still my family’

Seema’s estranged husband, Ghulam Haider, left his job as a laborer and rickshaw driver to earn more money for his family in Saudi Arabia.

Haider, who said he had not heard of PUBG, wants his family back.

“I earnestly appeal to Indian and Pakistani authorities to bring my wife and children back to me,” Ghulam Haider told AFP by phone from Saudi Arabia.

Haider said the couple, from different Baloch tribes, have a defiant love story of their own.

Forbidden by their families from marrying, they ran away to get hitched—a taboo in Pakistan that can sometimes lead to so-called honor killings.

“Later, a jirga (council of elders) was summoned to settle the matter and a fine of one million rupees (around $3,640) was slapped on me,” he said.

“I am far from my home, from my family, and it is very agonizing for me because we married out of love.”

‘She is an adult’

In India, the couple have received a popular welcome. Crowds from nearby villages have been visiting them since their arrest grabbed national headlines. “We took selfies,” said Rakesh Chand, 37, who drove over an hour to offer his congratulations, one of the dozens lining up to greet them.

“Sachin is very happy, even his family has accepted them, so the government must ensure that she isn’t forced to leave.” But on the streets near her old home in Pakistan, Dhani Bakhsh village in eastern Karachi, the news has not been welcomed.

While people know about Seema’s story, few are willing to talk about the incident openly—though they gossip in small groups on street corners. “Let’s forget about her, as she has gone and she is an adult,” said Haider’s cousin Zafarullah Bugti, blaming PUBG for turning Seema into ‘a psycho’.

Seema herself is unrepentant, calling Sachin the “love of her life” and insisting she will dedicate herself to her family. “My children will get all the love, care and attention here,” she said. 

AFP

Recently released on Netflix, ‘Afwaah’  (translation: Rumour) is a thought-provoking Hindi-language mystery thriller directed by Sudhir Mishra. The film delves into the perils and repercussions of rumors, particularly in the age of social media. With an engaging narrative and a talented ensemble cast, ‘Afwaah’  explores the dark side of society, media, and the consequences of unfounded speculations.

In ‘Afwaah’ , we meet Rahab Ahmed (played by the incredible Nawazuddin Siddiqui), a renowned advertising professional, and Nivedita Singh (portrayed by the talented Bhumi Pednekar), a political heiress. Their lives take an unexpected turn when they find themselves entangled in a treacherous web of rumors created by the ever-present social media platforms. Sudhir Mishra skillfully illustrates how these whispers can morph into dangerous weapons, wreaking havoc on individuals and their relationships.

One of the standout qualities of ‘Afwaah’  lies in its intense storytelling. The film keeps its narrative firmly rooted in reality, shedding light on the sinister aspects of society and media. It fearlessly tackles the hazards of social media and even provides a glimpse into the religious conflicts happening in our neighboring country, drawing inspiration from real-life events of the past. The result is a thought-provoking piece of cinema that will keep you on the edge of your seat.

Now, let’s talk about performances. Nawazuddin Siddiqui delivers a masterful portrayal as Rahab Ahmed, infusing his character with depth and nuance. It’s a shame, though, that his potential for even greater intensity is underutilized. On the other hand, Bhumi Pednekar shines as Nivedita Singh, showcasing her versatility and capturing the essence of her character with sheer conviction.

Bhumi Pednekar truly steals the show in ‘Afwaah’ . She brings to life a social rebel who exudes a delightful mix of confidence and respect for personal boundaries. As an heiress, her character holds the power to wield influence, but in a patriarchal world, she becomes a victim of misogyny, even within her own family. Despite the challenges she faces, Pednekar’s portrayal of Nivedita radiates strength and boldness, leaving a lasting impact.

The supporting cast, featuring talents like Sharib Hashmi, Sumit Kaul, Sumeet Vyas, and Appurv Gupta, adds depth and effectiveness to the film's overall impact. Together, they create a compelling ensemble that enhances the viewing experience.

While ‘Afwaah’  maintains a gripping pace for the most part, there are instances where it might feel a tad slow and lethargic. The climax, in particular, ventures into the realm of Bollywoodish fiction but unfortunately falls short in execution, lacking the impact it initially promised. Nonetheless, these minor shortcomings don't overshadow the film’s strengths.

In a nutshell, ‘Afwaah’  is a compelling drama thriller that offers valuable insights into the power of rumors and their far-reaching consequences. The performances are commendable, the writing is solid, and Sudhir Mishra's direction keeps you engaged throughout the film. Though it may not skyrocket to superhit status, it remains a captivating watch for audiences craving a thought-provoking cinematic experience.

Who should watch it? 

If you’re a fan of slow-burn thrillers, this one’s right up your alley. It may take its time to unfold, but it grips you with its intensity. The storytelling feels genuine and relatable, making it a worthwhile investment of your time. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0drCO1XmlNU 

Genre: Drama/Thriller

Rating: 3.5 stars

Cast: Nawazuddin Siddiqui, Bhumi Pednekar 

Director: Sudhir Mishra

Run time: 2hrs 6mins

I observed that the Nepali Army allocates a significant portion of its budget toward salaries, allowances and training. This expenditure seems reasonable considering the army’s reputation and its crucial role in the country. However, prior to the Maoist insurgency, the army was smaller in size, necessitating an expansion due to the insurgency. The integration of the Maoist PLA into the NA further increased its current size to approximately 98,000 personnel.

In light of these circumstances, I have two perspectives. Firstly, shouldn’t we evaluate the current scenario? It is not necessarily a call for downsizing the army, but rather a suggestion to review and assess whether downsizing or upsizing is necessary.

Why do controversies arise when we raise military matters? These matters warrant serious deliberations and extensive research.

Considering our transition to federalism and the emergence of heightened border security threats, we may even require a stronger and larger army. 

The author is a member of National Assembly

Birth: 5 July 1954, Kaski

Death: 12 July 2023, Kathmandu

Sita Dahal, the wife of Prime Minister Pushpa Kamal Dahal who passed away on Wednesday, was not just a doting mother and a politician’s spouse, she was also a watchful protector and advisor of CPN (Maoist Center).  

Born on 5 July 1954, in Kaski, her family permanently relocated to Chitwan when she was eight. In 1969, she married Dahal and became involved in politics alongside. Throughout her healthy life, Sita played a vital role in the party, acting as a coordinator, guardian, and advisor for the party.

Dev Gurung, general secretary of the Maoist Center, hailed her unwavering dedication to the party: “During the Panchayat period, she spent a significant amount of time underground for party work. She remained actively engaged in underground politics from the beginning of the civil war, acting as a coordinator and guardian for the entire party during tumultuous years.”

Party leaders and cadres remember her as the party’s true guardian, adept at uniting everyone, particularly in times of crises. Within the party too, she was seen as a motherly figure, who was loved and respected.

“Besides being a supportive spouse to our party chairman, she also assumed various roles within the party,” says Dinanath Sharma, secretary of the Maoist Centre. “She played a pivotal role in unifying party leaders and cadres, ensuring the party’s resilience during challenging periods. In addition to her private responsibilities, she displayed a warrior-like spirit and offered many valuable suggestions.” 

Despite her position, Sita maintained a down-to-earth demeanor and possessed an equal and respectful attitude towards people from all walks of life. Her amicable nature made it easy for the public to connect with Prime Minister Dahal, and she played an integral role in supporting him through the ups and downs of his political journey.

Krishna KC, a member of the secretariat team during Prime Minister Dahal’s second term, says it was because of Sita that general public and party cadres could easily approach the prime minister and party chair.

“It was her who used to advise the prime minister to always make time for people,” adds KC. 

Despite her powerful position, Sita embraced an ordinary life and relished her experiences, perhaps influenced by her upbringing in a humble farming family. She treated everyone with equal respect, whether they held high status, were party workers, or belonged to ordinary backgrounds.

“To make a revolution successful, there are equal roles of many frontliners and backliners. Sita Dahal is one of such a backliner who is a strong pillar of the Maoist revolution,” says Chairperson of Communist Party of Nepal Netra Bikram Chand, who was a close hand of Prime Minister Dahal during the insurgency period.

Sita’s role as an advisor to her husband and the party stopped after she was diagnosed with a debilitating condition related to a rare neurological disorder called Progressive Supranuclear Palsy (PSP) Parkinsonism. She was also suffering from Diabetes Mellitus-II and Hypertension. Over the years, her condition continued to deteriorate. She passed away while undergoing treatment at Norvic International Hospital in Kathmandu. She is survived by her husband and two daughters.