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The Children’s Act 2018 is unique: it has made Nepal the first South Asian coun­try to criminalize corporal punishment against children. Sec­tion 66 (d) of the Act criminaliz­es physical and mental torture or degrading treatment of chil­dren at home, at school or at any other place. The Act lists 18 acts as ‘violence’ and 11 acts as ‘sexu­al offense’ against children. Those guilty of the aforementioned crimes will be slapped with a fine not exceeding Rs. 50,000 and jail-time of up to a year.

Anybody can lodge a complaint against guardians, teachers, parents or persons committing or planning violence or a sex offense against chil­dren. “After a complaint is lodged, the related authority conducts an investigation. Depending on the result of the investigation, a case can be filed in the children court of the respective District Court,” explains Rewat Prasad Kharel, an advocate and professor of anthropology. “As per court orders, the victim can then be compensated and the guilty party penalized.”

Corporal punishment is still thought of as an effective way of enforcing discipline in many families and even in teaching circles of Nepal. “A majority of the parents who use or support cor­poral punishment think of it as a trivial matter whereby they do no more than show their discontent or disapproval,” says Bijaya Bijuk­achhe, a psychologist and psycho­therapist. “But for the children it goes much deeper.”

She says many parents use corporal punishment as they were themselves at the receiving end of it during their childhood. “But one has to keep in mind that children are unaware of this and may interpret corporal punishment as stemming from a lack of love.”

Bringing them in line

Still, the notion that fear of physical or mental punishment can help guide the children on the right path is ingrained in the minds of many parents and teachers. “You have to punish your child,” says Parbati Thapa, 25, who grew up in a family where corporal pun­ishment was the norm. “I do not condone anything extreme but a slap here and there is necessary. What else can you do with an undis­ciplined child?”

Bijukachhe answers Thapa’s question by suggesting alterna­tive forms of punishment. “You can discipline a child without harming him or her physically or emotionally. Alternative forms of punishment include time-outs and taking away privileges. Let them know about the punishment beforehand so that they are aware of the consequences.”

Make rules and make sure they are followed, Bijukachhe adds. For instance, if you child has homework to do and wants to play instead, do not let him or her play without completing the homework. Instead of causing pain for breaching rules, direct them to follow the rules. “But most importantly,” she stresses, “know that every child is different and reacts differently to each kind of punishment.”

But many parents are still uncon­vinced. “They say spanking is bad but what do I do if all else fails? Their behavior at times compels you to raise a hand and it usually works,” says Kumari Gurung, 37, a mother of a teenage boy.

Interestingly, to justify capital punishment, Pooja (who declined to give her last name), a primary school teacher in Janakpur, cites Chanakya Neeti. “It is said that children under the age of five need love and endearment, for the next five years they need discipline and control and, finally, for the five years following that, they need a mixture of both.” Seen this way, enforcement of discipline is essential to building a child’s character, she adds.

 A law curbing corporal punishment where slaps and spanks have been an integral part of raising children was bound to be contentious

Lasting effects

Yet things are not so straight­forward. According to research­ers at the University of Toronto, children in schools that use corporal punishment perform significantly worse in tasks involving “executive functioning”—psycho­logical processes such as planning, abstract thinking, and delaying gratification—compared to those studying in schools relying on mild­er disciplinary measures such as time-outs. Those who get corporal punishment when they are children may also develop mental health issues later.

Psychologist Bijukachhe says chil­dren tend to hold on to the bitter experiences, which may find release later in their lives. Problems like aggressive parenting, low self-es­teem, anxiety disorder, and per­sonality disorders are all associated with physical abuse during child­hood. “I have adult clients who have what you may consider successful careers. But with a history of phys­ically and mentally degrading treat­ment in their childhood, they also have many emotional problems,” she adds.

Again, the introduction of a law curbing corporal punish­ment in a society where slaps and spanks have traditionally been an integral part of raising children was bound to be contentious. “We have copied a law that was being applied in the western society. But do we have the kind of monitoring sys­tem they have? And has there been enough homework to ensure that the society will accept it?” Bijuk­achhe asks.

In the opinion of Lal Babu Karn, an assistant professor at TU who has taught at various schools and colleges for over 25 years, “What you need is awareness among primary stakeholders, i.e., the children, guardians and teach­ers, and a mechanism to implement corporal punishment.”

Karn welcomes the new law but he also thinks more awareness is needed for its effective implementa­tion. “You first have to publicize the penalties. Then you promote alter­nate forms of punishments and even positive reinforcements in dealing with kids.”

Given the manifest lack of interest seen in pushing such pro­gressive policies among our bureau­crats and elected officials, Kharel, the advocate, isn’t optimistic about the new law either. “It may well end up being another bit of fancy legislation enacted just to please our donors and international friends,” he says.

Sheshuka Rai made her mark as one of the youngest Karatekas in the country. She holds the rank of 3rd dan in Karate and is currently awaiting results for 4th dan. She had shot to fame in 2016 after winning the ‘Sports Icon Nepal’ award. In the same event, she also won the title of ‘The most confident personality’. Sheshuka, who has already won accolades in various national and international tournaments, also dabbles in modelling. Now, at the age of 25, Sheshuka has made a transition from being an active player to being a referee.

 Born and raised in a village in the district of Khotang, Rai moved to Kathmandu in 2007. She has been playing Karate since Grade II, and considers her aunt Bimala Rai a major influence. Sheshuka says she maintained a good balance between studies and sports and exceled in both.

 “My dad Shukra Bahadur Rai and mom Ishwari Rai encouraged me to take up Karate during my schooldays, although I wasn’t really interested. My parents always supported and motivated me with kind words,” says Sheshuka. Little did she know then where the sport would take her. She enjoys Karate a lot these days and considers it her lifeline. “Winning the Sports Icon Nepal award in 2016 has been the biggest accomplishment of my life, one that I will forever cherish,” she says proudly.

 She is happy with the increase in women’s participation in various sports. “Finally, women have started coming out from the confines of their homes, although they haven’t completely overcome the strong hold of conservative ideas that discourage them from playing a sport like Karate. If they get an opportunity, Nepali women can do just as well in sports—or in any field for that matter—as their male counterparts. Karate has helped me relieve anxiety and identify my strengths, weaknesses and potential,” says Sheshuka.

 She thinks better coordination among the government, players and trainers is necessary. “The state needs to invest more resource and formulate robust policies to invigorate the sports sector,” she says.

 Sheshuka says Nepal’s sporting arena is mostly dominated by football and cricket, so much so that “even when players of other sports bring home trophies and accolades, their success stories go unheard.”

 But she is optimistic, both about the future of women and of sports in the country. She is hopeful that more women will take up Karate and that the media will play an active role in promoting and informing the public about other sports besides football and cricket. “I hope there will be more opportunities for our players to grow professionally and get financial stability, and that there will come a day when they won’t have to go abroad looking for greener pastures,” says Sheshuka.

The 15th edition of the Kathmandu College of Management Inter College Music Competition (KCM ICMC) saw the band ‘Psychopath’ from Ace Higher Secondary take home the winning prize, with ‘The Voices Unheard’ (Sangeet Pathshala) and ‘Alpha Omega’ (Blood and Thunder music school) getting the first and second runner-ups respectively.

More than 6,000 attendees witnessed the top 11 bands compete in the finals at Bhrikutimandap on March 2. Kiran Shahi from Jindabad, Jimi Blues from TMR Trio and Sareen Deoja from Monkey Temple judged the performances, also declaring the band ‘Eclipse’ as Judge’s Favorite.

KCM’s student-run ICMC connects youths and music enthusiasts from around the country. The event, now in its 15th year, is now easily one of the biggest music competitions in the country.