Mind Matters | Unsure & worried

I’m in my 20s and, lately, I’ve been feeling down and stressed. I especially worry about my future. Is it normal to feel overwhelmed by financial, educational, and family problems at my age? How can I overcome this? Please help!

Answered by Sunita Mahat, psychologist, Happy Minds

Early adulthood often comes with a lot of uncertainty, imbalances, and unspoken pressures. Opportunities might feel limited, while expectations—especially from parents—can feel overwhelming. Your question resonates deeply with the experiences of so many young adults, and it takes courage to voice these concerns.

Entering adulthood is like crossing a foggy bridge—everyone around you reassures you that there’s solid ground on the other side, but you can only see a few steps ahead. Even with guidance on education and career, it’s normal to feel lost or stuck along the way. The key is to be kind to yourself. Each step forward on this foggy bridge brings you closer to clarity.

You’re only human, so it’s natural to have limitations. Practice self-compassion, recognize what’s within your control, and be patient with yourself. Taking this approach will gradually lift the fog and help you move forward with more confidence.

Feeling stressed about responsibilities—like financial stability, career choices, and education—is completely normal as you transition out of your teenage years. It can be tough to see others around you seemingly thriving in different areas, but remember that everyone’s path is unique. Comparing yourself to others overlooks the uniqueness of your own potential, which is unlike anyone else’s.

Society, family, and even we ourselves often expect that we’re fully ready to handle responsibilities once we’re done with our teenage years. But physical maturity doesn’t mean we suddenly have all the tools to navigate life’s challenges. Sometimes, we feel like we’re moving forward quickly without knowing where we’re going, and that can be frustrating.

It’s understandable to be stressed, if you’re not yet in a position to support yourself or your family financially. Still, remember that investing in your education is a valuable long-term choice, even if the benefits aren’t immediate.

Remember, it’s okay to feel unsure. It’s normal to wonder if you will be able to fulfill your goals, but remember to take a deep breath. You’re only at the beginning of what can be a productive and fulfilling phase of life, so keep moving forward at your own pace.

If the stress ever feels unmanageable, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust or seek support from a professional. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and reaching out for help when you need it can be a strong and empowering choice.