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What do youths want? This is an invaluable question Nepal must think about and address as youths are the driving forces of transformation and a better tomorrow. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx spoke to three young people to find out what change they would like to see in their communities and local areas.

Rahita Shakya, 21, Patan

In the Newar community, there’s a tradition of hosting a bhoj (party) seven days after a person’s death. But I believe it’s time for a change. Instead of focusing on lavish gatherings, we could redirect our efforts towards helping the bereaved in more meaningful ways, such as emotional support and practical assistance. By shifting the emphasis away from extravagant rituals, we can promote a culture of compassion and empathy, fostering stronger bonds within the community. This change would not only alleviate financial burdens but also encourage a more compassionate and supportive environment during times of loss.

Ishta Dangol, 22, Dallu

One change I’d like to see in my local community is more green spaces. It would be amazing to have more parks, gardens, and tree-lined streets where people can relax, exercise, and connect with nature. Green spaces not only enhance the beauty of the community, they also provide various health and environmental benefits. Having more green spaces would make our community a more vibrant and livable place. People are cooped up inside their homes, watching television, or on their phones and laptops. This can have both physical and mental repercussions. So, it’s very important to provide education and resources to community members about the benefits of green spaces, and how to use and maintain them responsibly and sustainably.

Bijen Tuladhar, 21, Bungamati

One thing I’d like is a place where people can easily throw their garbage, especially when it gets dark, as it can be difficult to walk around safely. It’s important because some people throw trash in public areas, which makes the environment dirty and can cause health problems, especially for children who play outside. Everyone in the community needs to be aware of this. Throwing garbage not only pollutes the surroundings but also harms the people living in the area.

Another important improvement would be to fix up the Rato Machindranath Temple, which was damaged during the 2015 earthquake. This temple is important to many people, and it’s sad that it’s been abandoned for so long. It will take the help of the government, local people, and leaders to rebuild it and make sure it’s taken care of for future generations to enjoy.

Life is a book of lessons, and everyone experiences turning points in their lives. These moments are pivotal, marking significant shifts in our directions, perspectives, or personal growth. Whether it’s a major life event, a decision, or a realization, turning points have the power to change our paths and redefine who we are. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx talked to three people to find out about the moments that altered the course of their lives for the better.

Riya Rajkarnikar, 30

A breakup was the turning point of my life. I always wished for a happy love life. The initial days of our six-year relationship were full of love and joy but gradually, he became controlling and possessive. I was blind in love and that made me think everything he made me do was right. But his toxic behavior was depressing. It also isolated me from family and friends. Eventually, I found the courage to confide in my mom and sister, who supported me through the breakup despite his resistance. Free from the toxicity, I embraced opportunities for personal growth and career advancement. I’m much stronger and independent today than I was when I was with him.

Today I’m married and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. My husband has restored my faith in men, showing me what true love and acceptance look like. I’m thankful for his unconditional love and unwavering support. Through him, I’ve learned to embrace myself fully and believe in my worth.

Akriti Thapa, 22

Reflecting on my past, I’d say a pivotal moment was when I grew tired of depending on others for transportation. I also wasn’t comfortable traveling in public vehicles. This prompted me to embark on a journey of self-sufficiency. I decided to learn to ride a scooter. Through sheer determination, I acquired the necessary skills and obtained my license. This newfound independence liberated me, granting me the freedom to travel at will. No longer reliant on friends or family, I navigated the world with confidence. Riding the scooter wasn’t just about transportation. It symbolized empowerment and resilience, preparing me for a long journey ahead. Not being dependent on anyone felt good. It made me able to take charge of my days in the way I liked.

Lumanti Shakya, 24

One moment that truly stands out as a turning point in my life was when someone encouraged me to prioritize my well-being first, assuring me that by doing so, I would be better equipped to help others. I realized that I needed to invest in myself to truly make a positive impact in the lives of those around me. From that moment on, I shifted my focus towards self-improvement, dedicating time and energy to personal growth and development. This decision sparked a transformative journey that has not only enriched my life but has also allowed me to be more effective in supporting and uplifting others. One crucial aspect of this realization was understanding the importance of self-care and recognizing that taking breaks and prioritizing ‘me time’ is not selfish, but essential for overall well-being. By embracing self-care practices and allowing myself moments of rest and rejuvenation, I’ve been able to deal with life’s challenges with resilience and clarity.

Work gives you a sense of purpose and meaning by allowing you to pursue your dreams. Work can shape your identity by shaping how you see yourself. It enriches and sustains you. When we say ‘work’ we mean both paid employment and unpaid engagements such as household chores or any volunteering endeavors. Rastika Shakya from ApEx spoke to three people, from different fields, to know what work means to them and how it impacts their lives.

Meena Shrestha, 60

I’m an office helper at a ward office in Lalitpur. My responsibilities include cleaning the office and making meals for the rest of the staff. I take immense pride in my work and firmly believe that no task is small or insignificant. Every job deserves respect. For me, work is essential as I find it difficult to remain idle for long periods. I’m grateful for my job as it keeps me busy. It also gives me financial freedom. I don’t think any work can or should be assigned to a particular gender.

Bhale Lama, 33

For eight years, I have been selling vegetables. This is how I’m able to provide for my family and send my children to school. I have my own cart and I feel blessed to have what I have. Not many people are as fortunate. My wife also works and we support each other. I’m happy with what we have. I believe doing your own thing and living a happy life is better than working for someone else.

Suresh Thakur, 55

I’ve been a barber for over 30 years. I own a small shop in Patan and everything is going well. I’m able to provide for my family and meet our needs. What makes me even happier is that I’ve been able to educate my children in a place as expensive as Kathmandu. For me, work is a source of satisfaction. I believe that your hard work will pay off one day, so you must keep working diligently. It’s important to never cheat and not be afraid to work hard.

Mohammed Aftab Sheikh, an 18-year-old from Birgunj, Nepal, is an up-and-coming rapper. Sheikh, known by his stage name Afu Insane, believes talent and determination will take him a long way. When he was 10, Sheikh found solace at his uncle’s shop, where the mesmerizing beats of Yama Buddha’s ‘Saathi’ left an indelible mark. Inspired by the legendary rapper, a dream began to take shape. Currently pursuing a diploma in Civil Engineering at Birgunj Institute of Technology, Sheikh seamlessly blends academic pursuits with a dedication to his musical career.

During the Covid-19 lockdown, Sheikh had time on his side. He delved into the world of rap, sharpening his skills in both writing and delivery. His virtual mentor? “The internet, particularly YouTube, became my classroom,” he says. The journey, however, wasn’t without challenges. “Despite having the knowledge and ideas, turning my passion into reality was difficult due to financial constraints.” The pandemic added another layer of difficulty to Sheikh’s pursuit of producing music. Yet, undeterred by these hurdles, he navigated his musical journey with resilience, determined to overcome obstacles and share his voice with the world.

Despite financial limitations, Sheikh refused to let go of his dreams. Armed with nothing but his smartphone, he took matters into his own hands, recording his music and bravely sharing it with the world via YouTube. Sheikh adds, “I used to record with my smartphone in a peaceful area, then edit the recordings before uploading them to YouTube. I know it might not be considered professional, but everyone has to start somewhere.”

Things changed when Sheikh met a friend who happened to own a recording studio. Seizing the opportunity, he embraced the chance to take his musical career further. With access to professional equipment and guidance, he had the chance to refine and produce high-quality work.

In a society where tradition often decides the path you must follow, Sheikh chose to defy the norm. Many people from his community doubted his choices and intentions. Even his family didn’t want him to get into music. His father, he says, was always angry with him. Despite the negativity and the self-doubt it led to, Sheikh was determined to give music a chance.

“All the criticism made me question myself but I didn’t want to give up,” he says. “Despite societal pressure, I kept going. Deep down, I believed I could do what I set out to do.” He found support from unexpected sources, and society’s critical view gradually turned into admiration and respect.

He comes from the lively Madhesh region, where he gained a deep appreciation for diverse cultures and languages. Fluent in Nepali, Hindi, Maithili, and Bhojpuri, he embodies the essence of Madhesi identity, effortlessly connecting people from different backgrounds.

Sheikh has ventured into the Nepali film industry with his debut in the web series ‘Arati’. Sheikh’s involvement in it marks a significant milestone in his artistic journey. And he couldn’t be happier as the project is aimed at sparking conversations and driving societal change. “By using my platform to amplify the voices of survivors and advocate for justice, I try to exemplify the power of art to bring about social transformation,” he says.

Sheikh’s personal favorite, ‘Khukuri,’ holds a special place in his heart as it reflects his love and pride for his nation. Through this powerful piece of art, Sheikh expresses his profound connection to his Nepali identity. “As a proud Nepali, I use ‘Khukuri’ to honor my roots and pay tribute to the resilience and spirit of the Nepali people,” he says. With heartfelt lyrics and captivating melodies, he weaves a tapestry of love and admiration for Nepal, instilling a sense of patriotism and unity among listeners.

“Balancing the demands of engineering studies and pursuing my passion for rap has been no easy feat,” he says. “But when your vision is clear and you are passionate about something, you find a way to make time for it.”

Sheikh also challenges the stereotype surrounding Bhojpuri music with his unique approach to rap. In a genre often associated with less reputable themes, Sheikh’s Bhojpuri rap stands out for its depth and creativity. As one of the few creators rapping in Bhojpuri, he breaks new ground, captivating audiences with his innovative sound and thought-provoking lyrics.

Despite facing numerous challenges along the way, Sheikh’s unwavering belief in his dreams has helped him advance towards his goal. His resilience in the face of adversity, coupled with his fearless embrace of creativity and individuality, serves as an inspiration for others to pursue their passions with courage and conviction. As he continues to push boundaries and break barriers, his journey serves as a reminder that anything is possible with dedication, perseverance, and a steadfast belief in the power of one’s dreams.

Goals play a crucial role in your life. Without goals, you feel aimless and lack motivation. Achieving your goals fills you with a sense of pride and happiness. Even if you don’t achieve everything you set out to, goals give you a sense of direction and purpose. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx talked to three people to find out where their childhood dreams led them.

Shambhu Puri, Fashion designer

As a child, I often imagined my future career with excitement. Growing up in a middle-class family of eight instilled a sense of responsibility in me, especially since my father passed away early. From a young age, I wanted to become a doctor. But after completing higher secondary education, I had a difficult decision to make due to family circumstances and I shifted my focus from medicine to fashion design. Although this was a significant career change, I embraced it with unwavering determination and hard work. I began to receive orders and eventually launched my clothing brand, ‘Sam Sui Clothing’. I had the opportunity to work on various projects, including music videos, notable Nepali movies, TV commercials, reality shows, and many more. My journey has not been without challenges, but I have learned that the fashion industry demands perseverance and hard work. While my childhood dream might have been unfulfilled, I have found my passion.

Sumikchya Shakya, Chemical engineering student

As a child, I wanted to become a doctor. The idea of healing and helping others held a strong appeal for me, and I envisioned a future where I could make a positive impact on people’s lives through medicine. However, time went on and my interest changed. I found myself drawn towards the field of chemical engineering. The allure of problem-solving, innovation, and the potential to contribute to advancements in technology and manufacturing became predominant in my life. While my career path took a different direction than what I initially imagined, I’m grateful for the opportunities and fulfillment that my chosen field has provided me.

Unique Rajak, Data engineer

As a child, I always dreamed of becoming an engineer. Engineering always intrigued me because it offered the opportunity to apply logical thinking and creativity to build and fix things. I loved the feeling of accomplishment that came with creating something new. As I grew older, my journey took a different path and I explored different fields within engineering. I found myself increasingly drawn to the world of data and technology. The power and potential of data-driven solutions captivated me, and I realized that becoming a data engineer would allow me to combine my passion for problem-solving with cutting-edge technology. I struggled to secure an academic internship and had to settle for a different role to complete my degree. Now, as a data engineer, I get to design, build, and optimize data systems and pipelines, using my skills and knowledge to make an impact in the digital landscape. 

Dr Kamana Neupane is a 30-year-old dentist currently practicing at Kantipur Dental College Teaching Hospital and Research Centre. She serves as a consultant periodontist at the teaching hospital, where she shares her expertise with aspiring dental professionals. She obtained her Bachelor of Dental Surgery (BDS) degree from Chitwan Medical College. She followed that up with a Master of Dental Surgery (MDS) degree from Kantipur Dental College, affiliated to Kathmandu University. 

In addition to her clinical practice, Dr Neupane is an active member of several professional organizations, including the Nepalese Society of Periodontology and Oral Implantology, Nepal Association of Dental Research, and the Nepal Medical Association. She strives to provide the highest quality dental care to her patients while actively contributing to the advancement of dental research and education in Nepal. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx spoke to Dr Neupane about her experience and roles in the field of dentistry.

What do you think about the current state of dental care in Nepal? 

In our region, particularly in the southeastern area, there’s a noticeable lack of awareness about oral health. Many people believe that as we age, our teeth naturally become weaker and see it as normal, which is a misconception. This leads to a general unawareness and lack of motivation regarding oral health. Regular checkups for oral health aren’t common. Most people only visit a dentist when they have severe issues. If people understood the importance of good oral hygiene and made regular visits to the dentist, oral health problems would decrease. Just like we prioritize taking care of other parts of our body, it’s crucial to prioritize our oral health too.

In urban areas, there’s some regard for oral health but in remote areas, there’s very little awareness. For many, oral health care and treatment seem like luxuries rather than necessities. It’s unrealistic to expect people in remote areas to prioritize dental health when they’re struggling to meet their basic needs. However, we can make a positive impact with proper education, awareness, and motivation. 

What are some practices for maintaining good oral hygiene? Are there any habits or behaviors that negatively impact oral health?

Brush your teeth every morning and night, right after meals, using a soft-bristled toothbrush and toothpaste with fluoride. Don’t forget about dental floss as it’s crucial for cleaning the spaces between your teeth and removing any leftover food. Also, make sure to rinse your mouth, teeth, and tongue thoroughly. It’s all about keeping your entire mouth clean and healthy. However, maintaining good dental hygiene isn’t the only factor in oral health. Some bad habits can negatively impact our oral health. Smoking, drinking alcohol, and using substances like cocaine, heroin, and tobacco can directly weaken our gums and teeth. Habits such as teeth grinding and breathing through the mouth can also cause problems. Studies have shown that individuals who smoke or abuse substances are four times more likely to experience gum problems than non-smokers. 

What are the key steps you take when a patient comes to your clinic for treatment?

We conduct a comprehensive assessment of their physical and mental well-being. We carefully evaluate their orientation and overall fitness to ensure they are in a condition conducive to receiving treatment. We delve into their medical history to gain insight into the reasons behind their visit and the specific issues they are facing. We take into account their overall health status, recognizing that certain medical conditions can significantly impact oral health. For instance, we are mindful that conditions like diabetes can manifest in oral symptoms such as loose teeth, despite diligent oral hygiene practices.

Then we conduct a thorough examination of the patient’s mouth, often using X-rays, CT scans, and sometimes blood tests for more complex cases. This helps us diagnose any problems. We prioritize treatment based on the patient’s immediate needs, such as relieving pain or addressing swelling. Then we address any underlying issues that the patient might not have been aware of. We take the time to thoroughly explain the patient’s condition, discussing the contributing factors and potential treatment options. By empowering patients with knowledge about their oral health, we enable them to make informed decisions and actively participate in their treatment journey.

Are there any community outreach programs or public health initiatives you’re involved in to promote dental health awareness and education in Nepal?

We actively engage in oral health campaigns within local schools, recognizing the receptivity of young minds to educational initiatives. Through these campaigns, we want to impart fundamental knowledge about maintaining oral hygiene to children. We emphasize the importance of regular brushing and demonstrate proper brushing techniques tailored to their age and understanding. Our commitment to promoting oral health extends beyond the classroom. We also conduct checkups and treatment camps in rural areas. These camps serve as crucial outreach initiatives, providing much-needed dental services to underserved communities. We also take the opportunity to educate attendees about the significance of oral hygiene practices. We aim to instill good oral hygiene habits from a young age and ensure that everyone has access to essential dental services and knowledge.

How do you stay updated on the latest advancements and techniques in dentistry? 

In our field, we rely on international journals to stay updated with the latest advancements. These have articles containing new research, processes, and advancements in dentistry. Researchers share their findings, fill gaps in knowledge, and present results while comparing their work with previous techniques. As a periodontist, I’m part of the periodontal society in Nepal which comprises all Nepali periodontists. We organize three conferences annually. During these conferences, we host national speakers who present on various topics, including postgraduate students sharing their cases and outcomes. We invite international speakers to share insights into developments in their respective countries. These conferences serve as platforms for exchanging information and updating ourselves on the latest trends and practices in periodontology. We also actively participate in international conferences where we can engage with the global dental community, exchange knowledge, and learn about advancements from around the world.

What are your views on the future of dentistry?

When comparing Nepali dentistry with international standards, we find ourselves lagging significantly. Our technologies and practices are outdated, primarily due to affordability constraints. Many Nepali patients struggle to afford advanced dental treatments available in more developed countries. Additionally, the availability of advanced dental equipment and materials in the market is limited in Nepal.

Despite these challenges, there is hope for improvement in the future. With ongoing advancements in technology and increasing awareness, we aspire to bridge the gap and reach the same level as international standards soon. It will require concerted efforts from both the government and the dental community to enhance infrastructure, increase affordability, and improve access to modern dental technologies and practices.

Every woman is beautiful. She is woven of a thousand stories. She creates her world—the one we know of as home. She can provide comfort. She can envelop you in kindness. As a daughter, sister, wife, and mother, she is formless, adapting to the changing needs of times. Our existence is entwined with hers. But being a woman might mean different things to different women. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx talked to three women to find out how they see themselves.

Ashmita Bajracharya, 25

I believe it’s important to celebrate all the wonderful qualities that make us who we are. I feel grateful to be a woman. I’m a responsible daughter and a loving sister. I’m well suited for these caring and nurturing roles. I love how women seem to have an innate ability to face any obstacles and challenges and do so with grace. Women are capable of inspiring and uplifting others like no one else. I believe if each woman strives to be the best version of herself, she is capable of amazing and impossible things.  

Sachita Shakya, 44

Being a woman is a thing of joy. A woman is the most beautiful creation of nature. We can’t imagine life without women. For me, a woman is like a strong tree, standing firm in any disaster and sheltering those around it. Just like the tree, a woman stands still to protect the family from all kinds of difficulties. I thank nature for gifting us with the ability to be mothers. It’s just beautiful to be part of the creation process of human existence. Giving birth to a baby, and the satisfaction we receive is everything for a mother. And that’s something only a woman can experience.

Mina Shrestha, 65

Napoleon once said, ‘Give me a good mother, and I will give you a good nation.’ Women are known as symbols of spirituality, strength, love, sacrifice, and courage. The role of women in today’s world is gradually changing. Women are capable of anything. I feel proud to be a woman. Seeing women in different fields like politics, sports, education, technology, etc., makes me happy to be who I am today. From housewives to CEOs, every woman deserves respect and admiration.

Finding a balance between work and self-care is essential for overall well-being. When we prioritize self-care, it helps us recharge and maintain our mental and emotional health. Taking breaks, practicing mindfulness, and engaging in activities we enjoy outside of work can help reduce stress and prevent burnout. By making self-care a priority, we can improve our work-life balance and enhance our overall quality of life. Rastrika Shakya from ApEx talked to three different individuals with different backgrounds to know more about their personal balance between self care and work life.

Sneha Shakya, Student

As an architecture student, the workload is intense. We often find ourselves working overnight, leading to stress and weakness that affects us mentally. At times, it feels like quitting is the only option. In today’s fast-paced world, my entire life revolves around college. For me, self-care means finding mental peace to stay motivated and centered. I prefer spending time alone and treating myself to outings. 

In my first year, we had a final presentation coming up, and I didn’t sleep for a week. I had this intense craving for brownie with ice-cream but due to group work and my own presentation, I couldn’t find time to satisfy my craving. However, I make it a point of sparing some time for my peace of mind. 

Moreover, self care also means physical health so I go for morning walks /rides, or sometimes hang out with my school friends. This is where I find my peace.

Glamslick, Make-up artist

Being a make-up artist may appear easy, but it requires a significant amount of hard work, something I love doing. Personally, I always make sure to take some time out of my busy schedule just for myself. Honestly, there isn’t anything specific that I do for self-care, but when it becomes overwhelming, I prefer to be alone and reflect on my actions and who I was yesterday. I contemplate how I can improve myself. Reflecting and striving to be better is a form of self-care that has truly helped me find peace and become the calm person I am today.

Rakshya Thapa, Actor

Self-care, to me, encompasses anything that promotes my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Prioritizing self-care in my daily routine involves several practices. Firstly, I ensure to stay hydrated and maintain a healthy diet. I occasionally indulge in junk food for emotional satisfaction. I also take care of my skin and hair, often enjoying long warm showers to feel fresh and relaxed. To unwind after a hectic day of work and college life, I watch movies and series for entertainment. Additionally, I treat myself to head oil massages every 2-3 days, which greatly helps me stay calm. When feeling anxious, I turn to music, and sometimes I take myself on rides to clear my mind.

Above all, keeping myself happy is paramount. The work I do is something I love, so even working feels like self-care to me. I make a conscious effort to ignore negativity, staying optimistic and positive in every situation.