Mind Matters | Feeling isolated

I recently started working as an intern at a firm in Birgunj, Nepal. Initially, I was excited to join and I didn’t have any difficulties making friends. But, at my new workplace, no one talks to me. It’s been months, and despite my efforts to communicate, my colleagues don’t engage with me and often give me extra work. I frequently feel isolated and burdened. I even have lunch alone. The enthusiasm I had when I first joined has completely faded. Now, I don’t feel like going to work and would rather stay in bed all day. Is there something wrong with me? How should I handle this?

Answered by Dr Rika Rijal, consultant psychiatrist

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge that workplace challenges like isolation and heavy workloads can deeply affect our mental well-being. What you’re experiencing is more common than you might think, especially for fresh graduates entering a new professional environment. Many people feel the pressure to fit in, but if the environment remains unwelcoming or overly demanding, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and burnout.

This year’s World Mental Health Day theme—It’s time to prioritize mental health in the workplace—is a reminder that everyone, regardless of their position or level, has the right to mental well-being and a supportive environment. It’s crucial to prioritize your mental health. Consider having an honest conversation with your manager or HR about how you’re feeling. They may not be aware of the issues you’re facing. This could lead to some positive changes.

It’s okay to establish boundaries when it comes to workload. You shouldn’t feel burdened with excessive tasks that go beyond your capacity as an intern. Learning to say ‘no’ when necessary is important for your mental well-being. Try to connect with colleagues, even outside of work. Joining any social or interest groups within or outside the workplace could help foster new friendships. Reflect on what aspects of the job bring you joy or stress. If the overall environment doesn’t align with your values and well-being, it may be worth considering a change.

Before making any final decision about leaving, try to assess if things improve after communicating your concerns. However, if the workplace continues to negatively impact your mental health, it’s perfectly reasonable to look for a new opportunity where you feel valued and supported. Remember, prioritizing your mental health is not only your right but essential for overall success.