Mind Matters | Overwhelmed with responsibilities

In my thirties and married, I find myself shouldering the weight of responsibilities while my husband is negligent. His lack of contribution to household chores, finances, and emotional support leaves me feeling overwhelmed and unappreciated. Despite countless discussions and attempts to address the issue, his behavior remains unchanged. The strain on our relationship is palpable, and I often feel like a single parent rather than part of a partnership. Seeking guidance from someone feels necessary to navigate and understand underlying issues, and explore options for moving forward, either together or separately, towards a healthier future.

Answered by Kapil Sharma, counseling psychologist, Nepal Institute of Mental Health

The dedication you’ve shown towards caring for your children amidst challenging circumstances is commendable. Balancing responsibilities while navigating relationship dynamics can indeed be a daunting task. Feeling overwhelmed and underappreciated in such situations is completely understandable. It takes strength to express your emotions and acknowledge issues when things feel unmanageable.

Self-care becomes crucial during times of heightened stress, especially if you’re feeling increasingly hopeless and helpless. Seeking help from a mental health professional is a wise step. Therapy offers a safe space to explore your emotions and concerns, both individually and as a couple. Couples counseling can be particularly beneficial in addressing communication issues, setting boundaries, and understanding each other’s perspectives.

It’s important to recognize that sometimes behaviors are guided by subconscious patterns, and seeking professional help can shed light on these patterns and provide opportunities for growth and healing. Deciding whether to nurture the relationship or consider other options is a deeply personal journey, and therapy can offer clarity and support along the way.

Remember to be compassionate with yourself and prioritize your well-being. Open communication with your partner, along with non-judgmental support from professionals, can pave the way for positive changes and deeper understanding within your relationship.