The challenges of raising children

Family has long been regarded as the cornerstone of society, shaping people’s values, aspirations, and resilience. Today, single-parent households and nuclear families represent two prominent structures, each with its unique challenges, dynamics, and strengths. Here, ApEx spoke to three parents about the challenges of raising children, whether alone or together. 

Suraj Lama, 34

I believe when two people are raising a child it fosters emotional development and resilience through balanced responsibilities. In my case, I provide security and guidance to my child and my wife cares and nurtures. We work as a team and raising our child is a collaborative effort. When both parents are present, the child doesn’t have to deal with unnecessary social biases as this structure is accepted as ‘normal’. I think the impact is gentler on children. With single parents, it might also sometimes be difficult to give the same level of attention because of time and financial constraints. I’m not saying single parents can’t raise children. Of course, they can and they might even do a better job than a couple but it can definitely be taxing. There can be unnecessary stress for both parent and child. 

Ambika Bhandari Subedi, 36

I think raising a child in a two-parent household is generally easier and more effective than in a single-parent setup. A two-parent family provides emotional balance, with both parents contributing to the child’s development. In single-parent families, the absence of one parent can lead to feelings of loneliness, anger, or depression, as the child may lack exposure to a cooperative family dynamic. Social biases can further complicate matters, with children from single-parent families often facing stigma or judgment. Financial and caregiving challenges are also more significant for single parents as they must manage everything alone. In contrast, shared responsibilities in two-parent households create stability, offering better opportunities for the child’s education and future.

Sita Laxmi Twayana, 46

I have lived in Bhaktapur all my life and I have been raising my child alone. It’s an incredibly challenging journey. Managing everything—financially and socially—on my own has been tough, especially during times of scarcity. It was difficult for my child too, but I prioritized their education, ensuring they received the best I could provide, even in unfavorable circumstances. Today, they are excelling academically and pursuing dreams that align with my aspirations for them. I have instilled strong norms and values, and I believe they will achieve great things in life. However, the scorn and criticism I faced as a single parent were hurtful and it still pains me when I think of it. I hope my child and others in similar situations never have to endure such prejudice.