Answered by Kripa Acharya, counseling psychologist, Happy Minds
First of all, I would really like to thank you for coming forward with your issue. As someone who works in the medical field, I know how hard it is to open up about our work related trauma. We try to hide or compartmentalize it even when it bothers us to our core.
Secondly, I want you to acknowledge that it is okay to feel this way. Death is already a difficult situation to deal with, and having to see it frequently can be traumatizing. A doctor’s job requires a lot of empathy, and sometimes when we get attached to our patients emotionally, it can get even more disturbing. But I want to assure you that you can always find a way to balance your mental health, emotions, as well as your work. The first thing I want you to do is make a work schedule for yourself on a daily basis. Have a set plan for each day. And, in that schedule, include a task that doesn’t require you to be in a serious mode. Plan an activity that will let you relax, shut down your mind for a bit and just enjoy that moment. It can also align with your hobby. Maybe you can set a time for painting, practicing an instrument, or simply playing with children. You can also engage in some light conversations with people around you. But make sure it’s something that takes your mind off work, and lets you relax and goof around to give yourself space from all the work stress, and stick to this schedule. Making time for therapy can also be a good solution. Maybe take an hour out of your week perhaps. Finding someone to share or listen to what you have been going through can really lift the burden off your chest. In case you don’t have time for therapy, journaling is the next best thing. Also, find people who have been going through the same thing as you have. Even at your hospital, you might have come across colleagues who have been dealing with similar problems. Find a person like that who can relate with what you are going through. Both of you can share what’s on your minds with each other. This will help you realize that you are not alone in this. It will be like a support group for you and the other person you share your experiences with. This can work as an alternative for therapy if you aren’t able to visit a psychologist. But I do suggest you find some time from work to visit a therapist, especially if your work is really stressing you out. You have to find a way to deal with it before it spirals out of control.
